http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Elann Community Chat Center - Previous Website Chat - A little Self back patting - Messages en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Jitbit AspNetForum Thu, 08 Jul 2004 18:20:26 GMT Thu, 08 Jul 2004 18:20:26 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Heather]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 18:20:26 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 That is great that you got your resume off, it is a large part of the battle. After 15 years out of the workforce, I wouldn`t even know where to begin to update my resume--it seems like another lifetime! Be strong, I know things will turn around for you. And you may just find your husband coming back to you when he finds out how self-sufficient you are. Then it will be up to you as to whether you take him back!
Sandra]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 17:39:45 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 shui kuen]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 16:51:58 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Bets-your right I just have to keep my head about me. And it is a little frustrating that he gets to play single guy. Heck it`s just frustrating he can get in car and go somewhere.lol
Les-I guess one reason I wasn`t nervous is because the last job I had. I was an employment consultant. I found people jobs. So I became very comfortable talking to businesses. I just pretend that I`m looking for a job for one of my clients. Silly, but it helps.
Theresa-I`ll take your word about making me stronger. And you and Bets are right about not being able to fast forward. Boy how I wish I could.
And beautiful Shui Kuen-I love how you described husband and wives. And I like the fact that you pointed out about room amtes are not for forever. That is so true. I hope he does turn around. Because for all this silly stuff I still love him very much.
Heather]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 16:36:17 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Thu, 08 Jul 2004 10:01:23 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 None of this is easy, but getting through it will make you even stronger...
Theresa]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 08:04:57 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Got my fingers crossed that you get prompt responses!
Les]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 05:22:22 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
You have to assume that it`s not the end of all love, that you are basically a lovable person. Right now, it may absolutely SMACK that your husband gets to play single guy with his new room mate, but don`t assume that that`s better than what you are doing.

Keep your head about you too.
B]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 04:00:46 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 patw]]> Thu, 08 Jul 2004 03:31:40 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
It`s nice to know this isn`t the end of all love. I`m not even sure if this is the end of this love.I`ll take your word about good things down the road for me. Actually the last couple of days I`ve begun to feel that maybe I am not going to feel this way for the rest of my life and that maybe something good will come out of this.

Thank all of you for your support it has helped so much!
Heather]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 22:50:39 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
It`s a big world. You have to choose what it is you will and won`t accept. Good for you for putting out your resume-don`t forget to put the word out among your aquaintances too!

I remember being so mad that my ex was living the party life-but that`s why we didn`t need to be together, because you can`t be a partnership and be happy that "so and so didn`t know I was married!"

You can do this-it IS hard, but if it was easy, no one would be on Jerry Springer. You have talent, and stick-to-it, and there`s something good waiting for you down the road. (My DH walked into my life when I was falling apart from my ex...I didn`t kiss him til 3 years later) Keep your standards up!

B]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 21:25:22 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
After I wrote that I began to feel all wonky inside. Scared, unsure, and really, really hurt. Hurt that my husband doesn`t want to live with me and that he has a friend to turn to and to lean on. It`s his new roomie. They go out looking at places and hang out together. It makes it hard for me. I don`t seem to have an escape from this place, right now. But then I went and listened to Melissa Etheridge`s song "Mercy". The chorus has this soft voiced female singing "It`s going to be all right. It`s going to be okay. Just hold on tight. It`ll all go away..." And boy did that help restore some of my strength and belief in myself. And that it will be all right and okay. Now I just have to get thru this evening. I might have to continually listen to that song, but that`s okay too. Music therapy. You gotta love it.
Heather]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 18:35:08 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Shui Kuen]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 17:17:08 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
What is the Chinese proverb? A long journey begins with the first step? Good for you,it takes a lot of moxie to look for a job and undergo the scrutiny. You`ve got a lot to offer for an employer and I wish you all the luck in the world. You may not get your dream job first shot out, but if you don`t, you haven`t signed a lifetime contract. And you`ll have gained a lot along the way and your opportunites will have increased. Way to go, seek and you will find.
Hugs,
Benne]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 17:12:24 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Wed, 07 Jul 2004 16:05:55 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 you go girl.. I have been working for the same company for 24 years started when I was 16, if I had to go out and invterview for something now I would probably freak..so I give you lots of credit.
judy]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 15:34:10 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919
Eileen.]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 14:54:43 GMT http://www.elann.com/Commerce.web/forums/messages.aspx?TopicID=134919 Today I went out and looked for a job. I brought my resume with me. All the places I went into weren`t hiring but I dropped off 4 of my resumes. Where`s the back patting? Well it felt good to not feel scared or unsure. I felt confident and had a smile on my face. Often times I was far more professional than some of the people I spoke with. So hopefully someone will call me, soon.
Proud of herself Heather]]> Wed, 07 Jul 2004 14:41:28 GMT